Culturally Dysfunctional

. I'm still referring to men.. the ones we think are "suitable" suitors.. guess again.. talk to the man before you go deeper into getting engaged and married .. do you really want to marry a man who's experienced with other men? or boys? or a man who has had intercourse with so many women all over the globe..safe or not.. and comes nice and polished to your doorstep in the image of a knight in shining armor? I truly pray that all my girls get good men and everybody out there! because only ALLAH knows the real them.. not even their parents! and dont bother asking their friends.. they're just going to keep their mouth shut cause its their "CODE" I do not mean to demonize men and sanctify women, women have their crap too! but i'm simply placing what I have seen and heard first hand from guys.

Ok so here are some of my thoughts on men in general.. most of them men i've met are sweet and kind... but does that really determine how good they are? First of all let me suggest what is my idea of what a "good" man may be. *well he has to be respectful to himself and to you and other people of course. *To be open mined..and please openminded does not mean liberal there's a difference!It also requires no judgement,tolerance and acceptance! *He has to be generous, I do not necessarily mean monetarily but generous with his emotions it is not enough for a man to take you out to nice restaurants and pay a hefty bill. It is not generous when a man does not wish you a happy birthday or congratulate you on getting a promotion or winning an award. Its not generous when you dont show appreciation, its not always necessary to literally say thank you but sometimes a look or a gesture of appreciation that makes you feel that they liked the gift or the surprise party you

First of all I'd like to note that "culturally dysfunctional" a term invented completely by my best friend/sister/soul mate. However I believe it perfectly describes the both of us. Its not easy being a third culture kid.. on the outside you look a certain way and people treat you according to a stereotype even some friends. That made me realize that people see you the way THEY want to see you.. only your real friends see you for whom you really are. They see your flaws but they also know what makes you..you.. they never misjudge you even if they argue with you and always give you the benefit of the doubt.. they always encourage you to follow your heart and not give a rat's behind what other people think because they see you no matter what your actions are. So being culturally disfunctional comes from basically not really fitting into the cultural mould you are "meant" to fit in. So for me being what I am makes certain people treat me a certain way..either b