Ok so here are some of my thoughts on men in general..
most of them men i've met are sweet and kind... but does that really determine how good they are? First of all let me suggest what is my idea of what a "good" man may be.
*well he has to be respectful to himself and to you and other people of course.
*To be open mined..and please openminded does not mean liberal there's a difference!It also requires no judgement,tolerance and acceptance!
*He has to be generous, I do not necessarily mean monetarily but generous with his emotions it is not enough for a man to take you out to nice restaurants and pay a hefty bill. It is not generous when a man does not wish you a happy birthday or congratulate you on getting a promotion or winning an award. Its not generous when you dont show appreciation, its not always necessary to literally say thank you but sometimes a look or a gesture of appreciation that makes you feel that they liked the gift or the surprise party you spent so much time organizing while you thought of them.
*He has to be considerate.. most women would choose the word sensitive..but I feel it has a negative connotation to men and when a man is described as sensitive.. from my observation when it is an actual description it usually means he takes things personally and is really insecure.
*he has to be a friend, men may not all be good listeners and might want to jump forward with a solution.. that's fine its in their nature..we should understand that and go to our GIRLFRIENDS with those feminine issues. your man can support you in your dreams and hopes and frustrations but dont complain about problems with your girls to your man he's just not going to understand.
*he has to have a fear of ALLAH, that is what is going to make him respect you more and treat you with utmost love,mercy, and respect.
Now I have to make a statement.. I have noticed that a lot of guys seem like such nice guys, but there is a difference between a nice guy who pulls you up a chair and opens your door and lets you in first.. and a good guy.. the nice guy might party hard, sleep around and do a lot of other things that may never cross your mind including cheating..it may sound shocking but a LOT of guys especially married ones are on the prowl for single gals trying to breath through a window of freedom that makes them remember that they are wanted..
there's more to come ;)
most of them men i've met are sweet and kind... but does that really determine how good they are? First of all let me suggest what is my idea of what a "good" man may be.
*well he has to be respectful to himself and to you and other people of course.
*To be open mined..and please openminded does not mean liberal there's a difference!It also requires no judgement,tolerance and acceptance!
*He has to be generous, I do not necessarily mean monetarily but generous with his emotions it is not enough for a man to take you out to nice restaurants and pay a hefty bill. It is not generous when a man does not wish you a happy birthday or congratulate you on getting a promotion or winning an award. Its not generous when you dont show appreciation, its not always necessary to literally say thank you but sometimes a look or a gesture of appreciation that makes you feel that they liked the gift or the surprise party you spent so much time organizing while you thought of them.
*He has to be considerate.. most women would choose the word sensitive..but I feel it has a negative connotation to men and when a man is described as sensitive.. from my observation when it is an actual description it usually means he takes things personally and is really insecure.
*he has to be a friend, men may not all be good listeners and might want to jump forward with a solution.. that's fine its in their nature..we should understand that and go to our GIRLFRIENDS with those feminine issues. your man can support you in your dreams and hopes and frustrations but dont complain about problems with your girls to your man he's just not going to understand.
*he has to have a fear of ALLAH, that is what is going to make him respect you more and treat you with utmost love,mercy, and respect.
Now I have to make a statement.. I have noticed that a lot of guys seem like such nice guys, but there is a difference between a nice guy who pulls you up a chair and opens your door and lets you in first.. and a good guy.. the nice guy might party hard, sleep around and do a lot of other things that may never cross your mind including cheating..it may sound shocking but a LOT of guys especially married ones are on the prowl for single gals trying to breath through a window of freedom that makes them remember that they are wanted..
there's more to come ;)
:D I love this post... Allah yehdeehum :P
ReplyDeleteThanks but seriously ..yama ta7t el sawahi dawahi! there's so much more you'll see!
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